Our Director of Students, Carrie Scanlan, had the opportunity to hear from key educators recently at the International Girls School’s Conference in the United States. In this blog, Carrie reviews Coming of Age: How Adolescence Shapes Us. This book outlines practical advice for parents (and educators) who are navigating the challenges of raising adolescents in this complex and ever-changing world.

Author Lucy Foulkes delves deep into the factors that shape adolescence: from navigating risks and relationships to the intricacies of identity formation and emotional turbulence. Drawing on global research and real-life stories, she paints a comprehensive picture that is as insightful as it is empathetic.

While neuroscience and hormones play their part, Foulkes goes beyond these sciences, weaving in compelling narratives that resonate with the challenges and triumphs of adolescence. She portrays this phase as the first significant chapter in shaping one’s life story — a time ripe with potential for growth and self-discovery.

Here are some key takeaways:

1. Understanding Adolescent Brain Development: Adolescents undergo profound changes in decision-making and emotions.
2. Navigating Emotional Turbulence: Prepare for mood swings and intense emotions by providing stable support.
3. Importance of Identity Formation: Encourage self-discovery and respect their journey to self-identity.
4. Communication is Key: Keep channels open and non-judgmental for effective dialogue.
5. Setting Boundaries and Independence: Balance guidance with autonomy to nurture decision-making skills.
6. Navigating Peer Influence: Equip teens with critical thinking and resilience against peer pressure.
7. Supporting Mental Health: Normalise conversations about mental wellbeing and watch for signs of distress.
8. Preparing for Transitions: Guide teens through school changes, relationships and future expectations by setting realistic expectations.

Foulkes’ approach challenges traditional views, offering insights that may initially seem daunting but will ultimately empower both teens and their guides. For those raising adolescent girls, her wisdom is particularly invaluable in today’s fast-evolving world.

It goes without saying, some of Foulkes’ ideas sit uncomfortably, and are certainly a challenge for those of us who grew up before the latest turn in century. However, we can’t deny that being informed is certainly better than being unaware of the realities of growing up in our current world. Well worth a read for those of us educating and raising adolescent girls!

Erica Thomas
Principal